A Girl I adore

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514sunnyMember15 January 2014 08:42:19

I live in Toronto Canada, I am of indian descent born in Montreal, Canada.
I admire a filipino girl the same age as me at my work offioce who I've worked now with on the side for 9 months now. I beleive she is so beautiful and love her cute way and personality. The way I think about her I really believe she was meant for me. Situation is she is in a stable relationship of many years with her indian boyfriend, who is from India and has been studying in Canada for his masters for the past 4 years. He does not spend too much time with her and let her know he is not addicted to her, she still stands by him. I once confronted her my feelings when I thought she was not dating and sent an email to explain but she said she would feel bad for her boyfriend of many years if she were to go out with me so she was not interested and blessed to have him in her life. She is very faithful to him and deeply in love with him. She does fear that one day the boyfriend will confront marriage to his mom and dad, who is of the strict indian culture will not accept her due to her religious and cultural differences. The boyfriend has never mentioned his relationship to his parents as they live abroad and only visit time to to,e.
He keeps on promising that there will be a time for everything. She trusts him very much and understands his ways to push her away is due to him finishing his education.
She is 34 years old and he is 3,4 younger. I truly feel that his boyfriend is just taking her for a ride, I know he cares for her so much but the piece of mind of the parents is very important here. Its not that he wont fight for her hand in marriage to his folks. Its just that his family would want to introduce him to an indian girl from india. Right now he promises her that it is no lie and that she is his motivation and will not leave her. He wants to finish his school, obtain a career and take care of her, however I believe she needs to look at all views of the situation. I think she should at least have a plan B. I think she is great and I would marry her in a minute. She now does not speak to me as she did before however I wait for that one day, a day that can change everything . I want to be her so much because i think she is the greatest and want her so bad that I'll have confidence to do anything.

AllannaActive member19 January 2014 21:18:00

Sounds like you are trying to justify (to yourself) why she should be with you. Fact is, she is happily with someone else. Move on man.

vetretreatGuest20 January 2014 01:14:07

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THE DRAMA OF IT ALL...MAKE A MOVIE...LMAO

mugtechViP21 January 2014 17:32:21

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Gee, you are trying to interfere in her personal life and now she does not speak to you the ways she used to. TAKE A HINT

dhnindcSerial expat22 January 2014 00:11:27

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And if the two of you are working for the same company, she can have you fired in a minute for harassment. Canada has good employment laws.

livingincebuActive member22 January 2014 10:27:51

You won't be getting her, apparently, mate. I would not continue wasting my time trying to do so. Regardless what happens in her current relationship, are you willing to wait around? I mean, sure, they could split, of course. And, they could, just as easily, stay together for 30 years!

You have been advised to move on. That is exactly what I would do. Filipinas are known for their loyalty. Trust me, there is a whole country you can visit, and meet one, or several, to become friends with. Find a single one there, and you will be just as happy as you believe you would be, with the woman who works with you.

Trust me on this. I have many years experience from my time in the Philippines.

julianpogiMember10 February 2014 14:20:07

hi, i just hope that this filipina girl will like you, i think u are right about his boyfriend. be patient....she will know it later that her bf is not serious with her.....just try to be friendly with her...and try not to talk about your feeling for her...she will fall in love with you... i think ur a good person...good luck

sherryshenzhen1990Member10 February 2014 15:42:25

Lol.M a Chinese girl living and working in the Philippines right now.M in the same kind of same situation like this girl.I know my Indian bf wont marry me,but I still chose to continue this relationship even though we are working in two countries as he is working in China now.
Some guys also ask me for a date,but I didn't and couldnt accept.Loyalty and love tell me that I cant do this.Maybe one day when he is married,then I would stop this relation totally and take some time to move to another.So I can taste her feeling.But good luck to u.

vetretreatGuest10 February 2014 21:37:23

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Expat.com should change its name to expat "dear Abby"

vetretreatGuest11 February 2014 07:35:58

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214245

Or change it to how to troll before being caught out.....

OP says he is of Indian descent but BORN and living in Montreal, Canada, therefore would be fairly conversant in the English language (even if with French undertones).

However, if you re-read the OPs post carefully you will notice that the style of writing is more akin to the Philippino 'style' of English. By that I mean there is a fairly broad use of 'third' person speak (to a lesser degree) and a definitive misuse of gender specific pronouns.

Go back and re-read the original post and break it down paragraph by paragraph and the 'glaringly' obvious will jump off the page at you.

And to keep on topic. Stop trying to break up another persons relationship, you have been told 'No' in no uncertain terms but can't seem to get this through your skull.

mugtechViP11 February 2014 08:14:33

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julianpogi wrote:
hi, i just hope that this filipina girl will like you, i think u are right about his boyfriend. be patient....she will know it later that her bf is not serious with her.....just try to be friendly with her...and try not to talk about your feeling for her...she will fall in love with you... i think ur a good person...good luck

Silly, unrealistic, bad advise. Move on, let her alone.

FilAmericanMomPhilippines Expert12 February 2014 03:30:28

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Gosh! She already said no to you because she loves her bf. And now she does not speak to you the way she did before. What are you not getting that everyone else here can see clearly?

She's already happy with her relationship with her bf. Step back and move on.

MirandainvestmentMember12 February 2014 18:41:45

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This is just so sweet.

Dont let her feel that you love her.
Just talk to her casualy slowly and everything will just follow. Remember fake doesnt last

Good luck

stumpyLaos Expert12 February 2014 23:47:48

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514sunny

Grow up and move on.

PonaniActive member13 February 2014 04:52:52

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One additional vote for "drop it and move on." You said your piece, she said no. You could hang around for some undetermined time, hoping the other guy drops her and your in for the rebound. However, no matter how this plays out you look like a loser. Take your pride and move on to another possibility. Nothing is appealing in a sad sack, and girls find nothing more appealing than a confident, independent man.
Also, when did this forum change to, as previously noted, " Dear Abbey..."

mugtechViP13 February 2014 07:17:14

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4368

Mirandainvestment wrote:
This is just so sweet.

Dont let her feel that you love her.
Just talk to her casualy slowly and everything will just follow. Remember fake doesnt last

Good luck

Stalking is not sweet. The guy has not had another thing to say in 4 weeks, its just a sham
This fake has lasted 4 weeks already.

JulienFounder13 February 2014 08:21:37

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This fake has lasted 4 weeks already.

... and this is enough indeed. Thread closed

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