what is expected of foriegn men by Viet women during dating?

G'day  Astonomic man,     Yogi likes your last 2 tips.

Yogi never thought the girls chasing him were bad ones.........he just thought they liked his good looks, charm & charisma. 😀       But It's  certainly a lot of fun when they catch you.   

Yogi's current girl doesn't even want to marry.     She's very happy with her life as it is.
So when Yogis phone rings, he usually knows why....😀😀😀😀

So you think she might be bad girl ??       Hmmm, Yogi should maybe find a "good girl "that doesn't like boom boom.     Yeah right buddy , fat chance of that.😀😀

I'm with you on the weather & rain .    We got rained on last night at dinner,  took Yogi forever to eat his soup.

Be careful, men, and women also!

"Mr Lin claimed that Ms Lam had borrowed $4,000 from her Singaporean boyfriend in order to have plastic surgery on her nose. She also once asked him for $700 to buy a branded bag.

Mr Lin also alleged that Ms Lam wanted the man to buy her a $200,000 piece of property but the purchase was not made in the end. In total, Mr Lin claims his friend had spent almost $100,000 in the six months that they were together.

The last time that they met was also to hand money over to her, said Mr Lin."

- See more at: http://news.asiaone.com/news/crime/viet … or=EchoBox

Based on the replies on this forum, there is clearly a lot of dis satisfaction amongst the men folk! Makes you wonder what it is then that the foreigners like about the VN girls and keep coming back for again and again....if you want the honey pays your money! Just do not do silly things like marrying girls you barely know and you can barely understand each other...if the girl will not wait at least a year then the alarm bells should be ringing like crazy..and if she talks about marriage in a matter of weeks then , rest assured, she has not fallen madly in love with you...

no problem with the name just memorable,   Just a site name fella and somewhat of a 'piss take'!! If it will make you happy, I will change it to Mr. Fluffy lol. Anyway, good luck to you and your plans to come to vN

Yogi007 wrote:

G'day  Astonomic man,     Yogi likes your last 2 tips.

Yogi never thought the girls chasing him were bad ones.........he just thought they liked his good looks, charm & charisma. 😀       But It's  certainly a lot of fun when they catch you.   

Yogi's current girl doesn't even want to marry.     She's very happy with her life as it is.
So when Yogis phone rings, he usually knows why....😀😀😀😀

So you think she might be bad girl ??       Hmmm, Yogi should maybe find a "good girl "that doesn't like boom boom.     Yeah right buddy , fat chance of that.😀😀

I'm with you on the weather & rain .    We got rained on last night at dinner,  took Yogi forever to eat his soup.

bad girls are only after Yogi's fur coat

Good point Happtobeinindia a mate of mine went to the Philippines for a sex holiday the 2Nd girl caught him, her dad is a crook and pressures her for money even though the 2 brothers have gotten fishing boats from her income here in Aus, he has a very strange relationship where because of the age difference he accepts that 1 day he wont "be able to SERVICE her"     she is very young and now wants a child, he has been snipped, so no go. She also plays with girls     and he is ok with this I suspect their are other guys  too they were married very quickly and I feel he is now starting to wonder just what he has gotten into....... I am hearing all your comments and advice and quickly concluding <<<< wait ???? and steer away from the girlies

I think that the most important part is to make sure that you apply the same criteria to woman selection here that you would back in your own country. Somehow men here throw all caution to the wind and then feel lucky when they land an attractive woman who far outshines their own looks, blah blah blah. Then they are shocked when they find out they are being used????

In your home country would you:
1) Date a woman with whom you don't share the same language and can't communicate?
2) Date a woman with whom you don't share the same religion? (some might)
3) Date a woman who is much younger or much older than you?
4) Date a woman who does not have any way to support herself (no education, no job, etc.)
5) Date a woman who was being pressured into dating you by her family who see you as the answer to their dire financial situation?
6) Date a woman who does not understand your culture and your way of doing things?
7) Make serious plans to marry with someone you have only seen for less than 3 months and you don't really know their friends or their history?

Now all that said, there are some stories here that end happily but too many that don't end well for the man. So men the old saying is correct KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE,  and half-shut after.

If I were a man I would be looking for a well educated, English speaking Vietnamese woman my own age who has traveled to other cultures and is financially stable. I would date her for at least 2 years so you can know all her tricks.I would also be very interested in knowing who her friends are and if her friends are only married to expats (possible sign of trouble) I would NEVER give her any money or expensive gifts. I would share the cost of dates half and half to test her to see if she is looking for a sucker. (Got to normal places to eat if going half and half not expat priced places) As hard as it is to do, delay sex for those first 3 months so that way you can think with your brain.

Bet you money she dumps you after a few months to look for another sucker. If so then aren't you lucky because you were not a sucker. And if she hags in there and goes the distance than aren't you lucky because you found a gem.

Remember if it is too good to be true than it is really not true. Anyone can fake it for a short time! The true heart is revealed over time.  But most of all use the same dating criteria you would use in your home country after all a woman is a woman. (And I am a woman so I know this very well even though sometimes guys catch Asian fever and say "Oh she is so cute, she is perfect, she is blah blah blah". Seriously some women can pretend very well but I am assuming you really want a true wife so hang on until she is tired of pretending and reveals her true self to you. And if she does not change then you know you found the gem.

By the way know that any time you have sex you may be tricked into fathering a child. Also if you use a condom wrap it up and take it with you so the girl can not self inseminate. One of my friends swears he always used condom and it did not break but then the girl got pregnant and now he has to pay! He was not careful with disposing of condom and would leave it at her place or in bin at hotel. Be careful.

The other thing one of my friends said to mention is that for those of you who don't like fat girls and think a Vietnamese skinny is the answer many of these woman gain weight rapidly when they are in a different food culture, example move to the USA and stop eating Asian food. So if the weight is important then you should write that into your prenuptial agreement and make it clear to the girl. The guy who told me had a wife who was skinny when they married and then 3 years later was quite large. He still loved her so he wasn't a pig just thought she would always be skinny.

Ok good luck to everyone. I do think there are some nice people in Vietnam and I hope all of you find whatever it is you are looking for.

Cheers

Without having read the long thread, I warn all not to confuse chatting, skyping, Facebook interaction with something real.

A distant friend had been convinced of some man's undying love for her - without them ever having met face to face. It ended badly, without them ever meeting.

Have you been together? Do you know her in the biblical sense? If not - - - it might all be something unreal.

MarkinNam wrote:

Appreciated , ( guys ), no, we didn't meet on a dating site, tried that with Saigon darlings, what a joke not going there again. My friend and I met on CFB organized by Tran hung Dao at this point were just friends and I have been VERY careful not to use the love, word. Some one gave some good advice about jumping in too quickly. I also appreciate chatting and txting is seen as dating start-up, she has expressed an interest for this I replied " we should wait till I actually get there. And yes , I am very conceiouse of others feelings.

cheers for the advice but we have met a couple of times

@NaturalCoconutOil

Absolutely agree, it is horrible that western culture takes the view of VN ladies and for the matter Asians as a whole as sex objects as there is so much more inside, wonderful values and loyalty. Is it all western society fault, I believe it is not it is the underworld and crime syndicates pushing and controlling this for the western crime gangs as there is money to be made from the rich who hide behind a false mask. I agree with you if a man is sincere to spend time searching to find that senior citizen from Asia you will find it, and both can be secure and happy.

Leo

BC Canada

@leonardlionheart9999

Hello and welcome !

Please note that you are participating on an old inactive thread ...

Regards

Bhavna

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