Dominican women

Eri76 · 2015-12-04T13:01:53+01:00

I thought to initiate a wide thread so the guys (but not only) can share their opinions and experiences they had with dominican women whether they are tourist or expats. Here is a summary of my experiences and views (hard to make a short post..) >>> Approach Dominicanas are easy to approach and talk to. Even when they have no interest on you at all, some conversation can be engaged they will never turn you down or be rude. If they are interested they will make it easy, will ask you for for whatsap (dame tu gwasa..). Good traditional dominicanas will never approach a guy. If they are the one to engage into conversation with you, most probably they are looking for a gringo for interest or looking for a fling at best. >>> Dating Dating a dominicana is like most latinas. You need lots of chivalry and courtship but on the other hand they will make everything easy. They are not very picky or difficult to please. Don't ask them to pick places or make dating choices, they expect you to be the boss and most of the time they will just follow. That doesn't means that they have no personality. It is just the way that like to date, the guy needs to be the boss! What I have experienced is that even when they are not so interested they treat you with an amazing sweetness that I rarely find in Western women. Sometimes they will play hard to get but that is only appearance because deep down they indeed fall easily. A guy doesn’t need to be overly handsome to get a dominicana in love, that's why often you can see gorgeous women with average or ugly guys (that applies also to Dominicains between them). Many of them have low self-esteem and don’t think they are so beautiful as they actually are. Many white men are happily in love or happily married because they have very younger and beautiful lady. Looks are VERY important. If you wear very casual she might feel offended and hate your outfit even if she doesn’t say anything. Dominicans are very much into looks. The guy needs to wear neat beautiful shirt, good shoes and smell good. What I like is that they know how to look nice ALL the time and wear very cute or sexy even for going to grocery.. Dominicanas behave very feminine and the gender roles are very separate. They know how to be a woman and they expect the man to be strong and have authority. Dominicanas are generally not high maintenance and spoiled, however they like the gifts (cellphone, bags…) , and they expect you to pay for everything even when they are from ‘high class‘ and have no issue with money. The difference is at “Asking fo gifts”. When they like you without interest they will never ask for gifts unless you are doing it on your own. If they keep asking materialistic gifs (buy me a phone etc) they are probably seeing you for the money. Dominicanas rarely date just for spending time of have a friend with benefit. Whatever is they social status, they all long for marriage and kids even when they are very young. At 25 years a dominicana will consider herself as ‘old” because at that age many have a marriage and kids under the bell. Also the family will pressure to find a guy. Career is not something in top of their list. They consider working as just a way to have money and not depend to anyone. Of course that is not absolute but I have rarely met a dominicana having great plans for her career. Some can be very successful and business oriented but that comes mostly when they become more mature after the 30s. >>> Infidelity I don’t think dominicanas are as unfaithful as men. If they really love you they will not even consider any other guy. I am very distrustful and I happened to put a spy application on my long term dominicana gf and I know she turned down all the men that were hitting on her through facebook or whatsapp. Basically she was replying “I have a novio, you look decent but you should find someone else for you”. Infidelity can happen when in distant relationship and the guy doesn’t engage much into the relationship and leave them alone for extended time. If they want you for money and you are acting as a sugar-daddy you can hardly expect her to be faithful. Have heard lots of stories of that kind in Puerta Plata. Sugar daddy paying for the apartment and coming over by surprise when she was with another guy in her apartment. They can be unfaithful for taking revenge even when they love you. It is her way to make you pay even if she wouldn’t care less for her lover. Dominicanas will hardly believe a guy to ever being faithful. They will expect you to cheat on them one day or another. Like the saying goes “Ojos que no vean, Corazon que no siente” they consider it OK until they don’t know about it. You may say WTF ? from a western point of view but they hate to know about cheating, they prefer close the eyes and pretend nothing has happened. Many Dominican men have multiple relationships and that creates a kind of competition. Even if she doesn’t love you anymore she would hate to let the other woman “win” her man. >>>Breaking up with a Dominicana. Dominicanas will hardly initiate breaking unless they have a strong reason. What I have experienced is that they will cry a lot, go to be drunken and try to forget about you. They don’t act desperate or keep begging for a long time. Most will ask to stay friends so they can keep an eye on you hoping to get you back. Some of them contact me even now being in a relationship and one of them is even married and still writes me once in a while. >>> Hotel employees. Dominicanas who work in the hotels are very smiley and kind (yes...). That is not only the due to Dominican natural kindness but also because that is written in their job contract. :) There are two kind of women among hotel workers. Either they are actively looking for a gringo having flings with guests from one week to another. Or the other way they will not take seriously any gringo hitting on them because they are realistic enough about knowing people are there for fun. I have experienced both. I did have a fling once but I didn’t want to keep contact with her. She searched for me and added me on facebook and I could see it was full with white guys (very likely former guests) who were commenting all over how beautiful she is and calling her “my love”. The other kind of hotel employee knows most tourists just want to have fun and go home. I really had a crush once in Bayahibe and asked her to go out of the hotel for a drink. She made up excuses as probably she thought I wanted to use her for fun. However she kept contact with me on whatsapp and kept asking for when I am coming back until she lost interest because I wasn’t promising anything. >>> “Bad” Dominicanas Now for the dark side: What most tourist experience are women that look for gringos in touristic areas or hotel workers who are actively looking for a gringo to take any kind of advantage. Many un-experienced tourists fall for the ego boost they receive: A beautiful young woman falling so quickly in love and promising undying love to them. When it is too easy or too beautiful to be true, something is wrong. And often it is wrong. It doesn’t cost them a dime to be sweet and loving. When the guy goes back home, they become more demanding. They will never ask for anything directly. They will often say I’d love to visit, USA, Europe etc and be with you (visa..). If that doesn’t work, most of conversations will be about their “financial” problems. The father who is sick, the baby who needs something, she needs surgery or she had an accident and they need to pay very quickly an amount of money….Their creativity has no limits. They are VERY good at making you feel bad if you don’t help her with money. Others are more intelligent and will keep the relationship good and keep you seduced without asking anything unless it is you who offer to help with school or send birthday gifts etc. They know very well how to act as a woman genuinely in love. That is because they are waiting for nothing less that the big prize, getting you to marry them and quickly. That’s why time is you ally..if they show rush to “ living with you” and “be by your side” that is a red flag. If you make them wait they can suddenly delete you from their life overnight like you were nothing. It helps to see the her real colors.. My personal belief if that with Dominicanas, many times, the area between real love and interest has many shadows of grey..Sometimes it will be a mix of both especially for those who come from poor families. I have seen here Dominicanas with guys what seems to be very likely a marriage of interest and they end up loving their husband anyways. For many marrying a white man is like winning a lottery and they see love like a social lift and better life. The more they are coming from poor social class, the more love is perceived as material protection. For our western mentality it is hard to get how can material interest and romantic attachment blend together.

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Bob K VIP Member

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Bob KVIP Member02 January 2016 12:57:27

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Maybe next time.

Bob K

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JJPANMember29 October 2020 03:24:58

#42

You got a Master in Dominican women behaviours.
Everything you says is really True, I can prove with what happens to me in my last long relationship.

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JJPANMember29 October 2020 03:26:42

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Me too, I´ve been there 8 times, and I met every time a diferent girl and I can tell that everything you write is totally true.

jdjonesdr Contributor

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jdjonesdrContributor29 October 2020 03:44:13

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Cue Barbara Streisand's "The Way We Were."

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plannerDominican Republic Expert29 October 2020 09:07:58

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Jjpan this thread is 4 years old honey.

But welcome to the forums

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DRVisitorSerial expat29 October 2020 12:35:49

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Good thread though - enjoy the comments

planner Dominican Republic Expert

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plannerDominican Republic Expert29 October 2020 12:47:45

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Lets open a new thread if needed. Thanks.

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CherylModerator30 October 2020 04:00:57

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