Hi, I'm currently married and living in the USA. My spouse is Filipino, from Cebu City. We hope to move to the Philippines at some point, but only after working and saving more here. I'm looking for help understanding some budding family drama, not necessarily looking for solutions but I want to understand better what's going on.
In a nutshell: my husband has money in a bank account in the Philippines, and his family is coming after it, and saying "no" is straining his relationship with his siblings and parents.
Details, if you're curious: the money was originally going into a house purchase, but that's been cancelled, money refunded, so now it's sitting in the bank. We plan to use it at some point as a down payment for another property, no definite timeline, but possibly within the next few years. I've told my husband that he's the one who saved the money so I won't try to tell him how to use it or who to share it with, I'll support him whatever he decides to do with it. Also for context, we do send his family money somewhat regularly, and have told them we'll always do everything we can to help if there's an emergency.
Mostly I'm confused because my husband has said a few times that the language (Cebuano) isn't conducive to communicating his thoughts and feelings on the subject with his family, specifically that he saved that money for a purpose and it's not just sitting there looking for ways to be used. He hasn't been able to articulate to me specifically what language barriers get in the way. Does anyone have any insight about this? I keep thinking there must be a way to communicate and get everyone to at least understand each other, but he insists it's just not going to happen. Has anyone else had this kind of language barrier issue? Or is it more likely related to culture? or just their individual attitudes?
but it isnt Cebuano, its a CULTURE thing. 
