Time to run away?

She's 34 and still single living in Vietnam with her parent? Something is wrong with her.

Jquinoq wrote:

Thanks for all the comments, I spoke with her and she understood that I was a newbie living here, and we decided to part ways and move on, we will remain friends .....

Count your lucky stars.....tis better not to marry in haste and regret at your leisure.

cowboyBob wrote:

She's 34 and still single living in Vietnam with her parent? Something is wrong with her.

Obviously you know her life more than anybody...

If i were you....i would aks them : So in Vietnam, couple always get marry after 2 weeks dating... ...Bcz i would to know their answer.

Anyway i saw ur reply for all comments here. I guess you will date with some women later, then you can find the Right One for you.

Good luck.

Yuli

cowboyBob wrote:

She's 34 and still single living in Vietnam with her parent? Something is wrong with her.

Not necessarily true.  In Vietnam, and most Asian cultures, many kids still live with their parents until they're married, or even after they're married, depending on their situation.   How can you expect someone who makes a typical salary of $200-$300 a month to be able to live on their own?  The rent alone can be almost 1/2 of their salary already.

If you like her and think she would make a good wife , AND you want to get married , continue dating her and spend more time getting to know the family .
I was 55 and married a 33 year old girl from VN about 6 1/2 years ago. I spent lots of time getting to know her and her family and we now live in the USA and are very happy . My wife is heaven and I take her home almost every year for 3 weeks . Her family is now my family too  . Tuyet comes from a traditional family and is very protective of me and our marriage . I have never known this kind of love before .  I hope if you do decide to marry her , you will have a wonderful life together .
Hey , we all get cold feet when the time comes . LOL !  Just normal .

Don't listen to Cowboy .. good girls in VN live at home until they get married . The fact that she is not yet married means she has waited for the right man . I would bet she is very mature and very smart .

Jquinoq wrote:

Great girl, very pretty, educated, speaks English very well. Family is well off Also. I can see myself with her fir a long time, but wedding plans so fast. And the pressure from her mother OMG, she is already visiting reception halls , crazy I say......I already booked my flight back to California

The best way to tell how your potential future wife will turn out is by looking at the mother. What does her behavior tell you and how do you think that might pan out in the future once this honeymoon period wears off?

Think carefully and take your time when it comes to funeral, I mean wedding plans. I'm not saying that it's a bad thing but it's highly unlikely that you'll be able to make a correct decision after only 2 weeks of infatuation.

There is nothing wrong with a fast engagement. Getting married is a long drawn out process in Vietnam. Personally I prefer this. The paperwork involved, the number of people/officials that need to sign off is really a comfort knowing that the goverment is delaying your wedding. Giving you the chance to wake up. 

ancientpathos wrote:

Giving you the chance to wise up. 

Fixed it for you.

I know now several  vets who went back to Viet Nam in the 90s specifically to get  wives. They were on one month visas so they had not much time to choose. One married a woman who was probably a prostitute in Sai Gon. One went to Cam Ranh and pretty much just picked one of the girls whose families were pressing them on him. Both went back to the USA and got their new wives over. Both are the happiest married men I know. A third did not fare well but I suspect strongly that his drinking was the problem.

mspatique wrote:

I was 55 and married a 33 year old girl from VN about 6 1/2 years ago. I spent lots of time getting to know her and her family and we now live in the USA and are very happy . My wife is heaven and I take her home almost every year for 3 weeks . Her family is now my family too  . Tuyet comes from a traditional family and is very protective of me and our marriage .

I have never known this kind of love before .  I hope if you do decide to marry her , you will have a wonderful life together .

Absolutely agree with you.  If you can meet a good Vietnam girl, the way they love, care for and respect their husbands is unlike anything i have ever experienced as well.  I wish i could express it in writing, but that would not do justice, you have to experience it to understand it.  However, it is not something that a man should take for granted because such love and beauty is not automatic, it requires the man to do his part as well and more and I think that is where a western man can have problems with a Vietnam girl.  If you do not love her the way she deserves to and wants to be loved, let me just say, good luck!

To the OP, if i were you, I would have done the same.  I just do not believe in love happening in 2  weeks.  People are different and it all depends on you, but i cannot see it in 2 weeks, I would have been on the next plane to cali!

colinoscapee wrote:

Im 53 years old and never been married, maybe there is something wrong with me too.

Nothing that a Vietnamese wife cant fix!

Jquinoq wrote:

Thanks for all the comments, I spoke with her and she understood that I was a newbie living here, and we decided to part ways and move on, we will remain friends .....

That's ok , but she sounds to good to miss out on , so do you want to leave me her number ,,,

ThaoBrewster wrote:

Jquinoq wrote:

Thanks for all the comments, I spoke with her and she understood that I was a newbie living here, and we decided to part ways and move on, we will remain friends .....

That's ok , but she sounds to good to miss out on , so do you want to leave me her number ,,,

I doubt very much you will remain friends,VN ladies are not good at that.