i don't know where her family lives but i have just the plan for you plus A LOT of good advice.
1)DO NOT build anywhere NEAR her family or your life and retirement will be a disaster, no matter how "nice" they seem at the moment.
2)Do NOT trust anyone. period. ever.
3)DO NOT try to buy any land without a clear and verified title already in hand of the seller, and make sure the seller is really who they say they are for that matter!
4)YOU cannot own land here, your "wife" can, whatever your girlfriend owns or does not own or buys or does not buy is irrelevant. think of "girlfriend" as another word for "future thief" or "devastating enemy that you think is your friend"
5) your girlfriends... "family" ...you should think of this term as " the people who will stoop to any level to steal and scam my money and destroy my marriage" including but not limited to -extortion,accusing you of molestation,having expensive sudden "medical emergencies" , poisoning you to get your debit card...etc,etc... no matter how old or nice or friendly they seem now or how big their smiles are when they see you.
i am NOT joking.
It may take years if ever to get a deed or title or even to get all the kids and cousins and nieces and nephews and grandkids and grandparents to agree and sign the papers..if you can find them all !
and then you need the death certificates of those who owned the land before and cant sign the paperwork.
Then after 5 years and all that when you get the lot measured by an engineer 20 people will pop out of the woodwork claiming that some or all belong to them and they will steal your lot markers and vandalize and harass you with summons after summons to appear in the brngy hall to listen to them yell about things that don't make sense.
all known from experience...
NOW..i do happen to know where an extremely strong well built home is , practically earthquake proof, for sure will withstand any typhoon its likely to see, and its 20 feet from the ocean and the house lot goes all the way to the water so it has a private beach !
I know its well built because I built it and have pictures and video to prove it. I was here climbing all over the $20,000 of iron oxide coated rebar and mixing cement made from two different sizes of crushed stone hand picked by me to my specifications every minute overseeing every single tie wire.
IT has red, white, purple and orange flowers climbing up the entire east side shading the house and very large terrace upstairs that overlooks the private beach. The roof is supported by hardwood (hard to come by) beams BOLTED to the ring beam and covered in 3/4 inch marine plywood and the thickest steel sheet metal I could find (brought in from 80 miles away) which is primed with iron oxide and coated with white high gloss enamel to reflect the suns heat. it also has insulation between beams and plywood and again between plywood and sheet metal to prevent heat convection as well as insulated on the interior underside of plywood.
large living room, bathroom, and kitchen downstairs as well as tool room. upstairs has 2 bedrooms a landing/hall area and a large (13ft.X16ft.) terrace overlooking the ocean.
I have spent untold hours, days, weeks and months and years to get the title to this property, jumping thru so many hoops you would have given up.
ALL yours for ONLY $75,000 US.
why so cheap you may ask, why are you willing to sell your tropical paradise you worked so hard on ?
because i built near my wifes family !
if you are seriously interested email me- rwpippinsr.1 @juno,com