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I like your story so interesting. I will also like to marry a responsible Filipino man  can you help me and how did get to meet your wife.

I'm a single lady and a Nigerian am in my middle age (42yrs) Thanks

Why a Filipino man?

I'm 54 and been here about 2 years.

Don't assume filipinos will like American food. I had a balikbayan box sent with a variety of spaghetti sauce, mac 'n cheese, hamburger helper, etc. They didn't like the spaghetti sauce (I find filipino sauce too sweet). I figured they would like the Mac 'n Cheese but that was also a miss. They loved hamburger helper (with pork instead of beef), sloppy joe's, ritz crackers, pop tarts, beef jerky and all the canned meats like spam and corned beef. Chocolate candies were a hit too.

As for cooking, I can't really make good tasting American dishes here. The ingredients aren't the same. Beef isn't the same. Tomatoes, onions aren't the same. Real cheese hard to find. Breads aren't the same. Can't even make Mexican food w/out cilantro, jalapenos, good tortillas. Even hot dogs and baked potatoes don't taste the same ... Try as I might, I'm as disappointed as my girlfriend when she tastes my recipes. Morale of the story, learn to love filipino food.

As for the phone thing. Get over it. You're old man. HAHA. You and I grew up when our parents had to set a curfew for being outside. Kids don't care  anymore as they are glued to their smart phone. Even when outside, all they care about is that phone. If you get a good enough router and/or custom firmware, you can limit bandwidth on devices at home. If she complains, tell her to get a job.

Cooking meals
I sympathize with with both Canojim and Marioph about being able to cook some of the foods you like. I have taken advantage of a superstition (?) here that women can not get their hands wet after ironing. This gives me the opportunity to cook on Sunday night while my wife does the ironing. I do like to experiment but here I keep it pretty simple. Number 1 family favorite is creamy garlic chicken with mash, next is potato, egg and bacon salad, followed by ham and pea soup. They also like crepes, "build your own pizza". Western style roast pork or chicken with roast veg comes a little further down the list. All the ingredients are easy enough to find here. I do miss good Australian beef and lamb but l am working on finding suppliers here in Mactan. Also good luck with your step-daughter, I have "inherited" 3 step-daughters and all are welded to their phone or laptop.
regards  Bruce

Swedes have much easier because of big similarities with Filipino food.
Not.

But a funny thing Swedish "Christmas porage" is basicly as Filipino conggee. They are a type of rice porrage, but the Swedish has just cinnamon, sugar (and almond)
while Filipinos add "anything" it can become even a full meal with things as e g pork .

I found of their positive attitude towards woman.lf really serious.

Regarding your comment that you wish your daughter would go outside more. A recent survey on the effects of sunlight on the Coronavirus found this: 7 to 10 minutes of exposure to direct sunlight KILLS 90+% of the virus. Also if there is any breeze that takes away an additional 5-7%. So if you want to follow the science, having your daughter go outside is actually a MUCH BETTER way of dealing with COVID than staying inside or pretending that masks are effective at keeping virus particles away.

Falilat Atinuke Kazeem wrote:

I found of their positive attitude towards woman.lf really serious.

You mean BEFORE marriage,
and AFTER marriage towards their MISTRESSES?   

Staying in marriage but have mistresses is very common...   (E g one unknown how many  mistresses he have had but many.  Not many "extra" children though.  He pay child support but tiny compared to his own living standard. He has nice house and car, but give only 500 - 1000 pesos per month so big problem for the poor mother to manage to put the child in elementary school...)

And even worse -  I  know many Filipinas, who are pissed at Filipino men making them  pregnant and then leave them WITHOUT paying any child support, even disapearing so they can't demanded support from. These women say "Never again a Filipino"...

The worst example I know of left his wife and two kids,
Moved and lived with an other woman and got 1-2 children with her.
Left them, moved to other island and made a third woman pregnant and left her   (This is the Filipina I know.)
Moved to other island and lived with an other woman and got child with her.  Left them but stayed in same town, That woman told the employer so the "pregnanter" got fired so he had to move back to the woman he had left       she wanting such crap man back!!!     Some are easier to find put about by Facebook 
These are them known of by the third, but perhaps he has made more kids. Of course he don't pay any child support..

JIM-I hear you loud and clear. Hopefully your message and mine will get around to the deadbeat selfish Pinoys who claim to be a MAN.They arent.They are selfish and care about 1 thing. Like small children -their way or the highway.My situation is different from your mentioned situations but similar.I lived with a beautiful young Pinay much younger than me when I arrived here 2012. We lived together 3 years. She wanted a baby-I didnt. She moved out and got pregnant by a Pinoy even before we broke up. Lived with him and his parents and they didnt treat her or daughter well.She asked me to help her financially to get away from him so I did. Now she has a 5 year old daughter and no husband or bf and the deadbeat dad wont give a dime. Pathetic how many (I didnt say all or most) men do this to women here in the Philippines.. It has made the Philippinas here bitter towards the men here and they want a foreigner. Most older Americans or other foreigners come here for younger women.Nothing wrong with that.My problem here is most Philippinas look at me as a guy wearing a t-shirt with dollar bills printed all over it. Its gets old after a while.I have even seen Pinays walking down the street with their foreigner next to them and the Pinay stares at me checking me out-always shopping for something better.Many are not content with what they have. Thats why I am single now and still waiting for the one PINAY who first meets me doesnt say"How old are you?Do you own your own home? and the biggy"Are you married?" I am still waiting.I know shes out there somewhere.Baguio Jimmy

capricornrising wrote:

Thats why I am single now and still waiting for the one PINAY who first meets me doesnt say"How old are you?Do you own your own home? and the biggy"Are you married?" I am still waiting.I know shes out there somewhere.

Well. Early ECONOMICAL questions I see as can be a warning flag,
but "Are you married?" can be REAL interest in the PERSON too. That have been among the first some Swedish women have asked me too.  Although less young Swedish women since I  passed  50 years old     
"What do you work with?"is kind of an economical question Swedish women have asked me early,, but back when I had a rather big PR and distribution business I didn't tell it was mine, just said "PR" or "Distribution"         Few Filipinas have asked me that, I guess  by they suppouse I'm retired, but if the subject come up, I tell I'm starting new business in Phils inspite of my age